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Member News January 2001
ASK OUR COACHESThis column answers questions submitted by our readers. Submit your questions to who will forward them to our coaches all over the world. Each issue, we'll publish a few answers from our RCI coaches. THIS MONTH'S QUESTION:
THE COACHES RESPOND: Roz Responds: "How do you like to spend your time?"
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FEATURE ARTICLEHeart Healing 101By Beth Pugh My daughter, Anna, who is 10, informed me last night at dinner that she wanted to be a 'heart doctor' and fix peoples hearts. I knew she meant she wanted to be a cardiologist and while being a doctor is a lofty and important aspiration, my true wish for her, no matter where life takes her, is that she has a joyful and peaceful heart. The reality though is that hearts get broken and trampled from time to time. No matter where you are in life ... single or married, your heart has surely suffered a blow now and again. The good news is that there is, indeed, life after 'heart trauma' and, with a wise heart, life can be even better than before. There is only ONE true key secret to healing your heart and expanding your future relationship potential. It's so simple that it is often overlooked in the multitudes of self-help books on relationships, but it all boils down to this: LOVE YOURSELF. Appreciate who you are and who you are becoming. Heal your past and become free of its limitations. Accept your responsibilities and repair any damage that you need to in order to move forward. Respect your mind, body and soul. Take the time to connect with your Spirit and become thankful for your unique gifts. Make a conscious choice to be happy and accept nothing less than the best for yourself. Learn to listen for and then trust your intuition. Understand that self-worth is the most precious gift you can give yourself. It's really that simple. Just love yourself. Until you learn to do that, understand that your relationships and future ones, will consistently be challenged and will not live up to their full potential. It's also true that when you learn to love yourself, you become much more attractive to others and your 'neediness' (which is very unattractive) will diminish greatly. When you learn to love yourself completely your life will no longer operate out of the fear mode and you will make decisions that are right for you based on personal empowerment. Don't confuse loving yourself with having an inflated ego or becoming a self-centered jerk. That is not loving yourself at all ... that is despising yourself and trying to cover it up with self-importance. That is not what we are talking about here. Loving and appreciating the essence of WHO you are has nothing to do with a distorted image of what you want others to think. In fact, when you truly love yourself, what other people think does not matter so much. You become at peace with yourself and that is sufficient. Loving yourself is the single most important gift you can ever give yourself, your mate or future mate, your children, your family, friends, coworkers and anyone else you impact. It's the difference between existing and thriving. It is to have that inner light that draws others to you. It's magical! Are you loving yourself? Do you know who you really are and do you share yourself authentically with the world? Have you learned to transcend the walls that we often put in place when we are afraid? Who are you meant to truly and honestly love? Start loving yourself, your heart will heal, and these answers will come. Beth Pugh |
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